What Story Are You Telling


“I have really bad balance”, “I have a really bad shoulder”, “My knees are bad”, “I have a degenerative disc”, “I can’t sleep at night”, “LA isn’t the place to meet a great guy”, “I keep meeting men who are players”, “I saw the x-rays, I have no padding left between my bones”. .. these are just a few of the stories I hear every day.

Almost everyone I know tells a story that limits them in one way or another.   Telling those stories just keeps those limitations in business.  If we keep on telling the same old stories, we’re going to keep on getting the same old ailments.  I just read this one last night from one of my 40 year old Facebook friends, “it sucks getting old”.  That is one of the biggest stories of all time!

It’s time to tell a new story, don’t you think?I was leading a hike and one of the women said her hip was bothering her, “you know, I’m getting old”.  That is a story I won’t be telling myself anytime soon or ever!  That story is so old and I’m not usually a good follower.

Did you know that your subconscious mind believes everything you say?

As Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “Beware of what you want for you will get it”.

Our subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between fact or fiction, it just believes.

That’s what he meant, be careful of what you tell yourself and what you tell others.  Do you want that to continue to be the case for you?  If so, keep on telling it like you see it or like you feel it.  We do have a choice but we need to catch ourselves telling the old stories.

Those stories are all over our lives.

How about…we tell a new story.  Tell the story how you want it to be.  Instead of, “I have really bad balance”, how about telling the story, “My balance is becoming more stable every day”.  Or instead of saying, “this town is almost impossible to meet a great guy in, they’re all players”, how about,

“I know there are some really great guys out there, this is a really big town”.

Sure, you say, but what about those x-rays or that prognosis?

What about it? 

There was a study done with people who needed to have knee surgery.  If you click on the link below, you’ll see the amazing results.  Even though some of the subjects were admitted, got the incision and told they had surgery, they didn’t have the surgery.  Yet, all of them reported their knees felt normal and were able to do all the activities they hadn’t been able to do before the surgery.

The key is, they believed they had the surgery and that was enough!


Catch yourself and catch your limiting thoughts and beliefs and statements.  Catching yourself will be the hardest part but you will be able to do it if you have any desire to create a reality that is desirable for you.

Awareness is where it begins.

You will hear yourself and want to turn it around.

Then, you’ll start to hear everybody else telling their own stories and it will get clearer and clearer why we are all so full of problems, we speak them into our world and then we keep them there by continuing to speak them.

Words are power.  Words and feelings affect your vibration.  According to the law of attraction, like attracts like.  Say it and feel it the way you want to see it and feel it. 

Even though this sounds so simplistic, it is really simple!

We seem to think everything has to be so hard when in fact, our lives could flow with ease but WE have to start flowing with ease.

We have to start BEING ease.  Once you begin to see that you are creating your reality by how you feel and what you say, you will pay attention to the words you choose to speak into existence.

Choose wisely and enjoy the outcome of those choices.  We have what we need here inside ourselves, we’ve been given the tools we need, we just need to use them in the way we were divinely designed!

Just Let Go


I am a massage therapist.  Today, a new client came for a massage and instead of getting the kind of massage she usually gets, “lots of digging and torture”, she requested a relaxing massage.  Good for her!  She listened to that inner guidance that told her to nurture instead of torture!

As a massage therapist, what I noticed about her was that she couldn’t totally “let go”.  If I lifted her shoulder blade up, she tried to assist me.   If I lifted her arm, she held it up for me.  As a therapist, this makes it really difficult to work on someone; the best client is the one who can come in and be a total gumby on the table.  The only thing you have to do as a client is turn over onto your other side.  Other than that, you be the clay and we sculpt away.

It occurred to me that this is how most of us live our lives–we think we have to MAKE everything happen.  Instead of trusting the Universe to weave its web and handle things for us, we try to control it all.  It’s hard to do, to JUST LET GO, but if we could grasp this idea we would see the ease in life and watch it unfold.

Sure, every now and then we need to take action–to roll over.  For the most part though, if we could repeat the mantra “just let go” and incorporate it into our busy lives as often as possible and on the massage table, we just may see and feel the relaxing effects of the Universal Law of Life assisting us into a beautiful sculpture–a true work of art!

See For Myself!


I went out on a spectacular Saturday morning mountain bike ride.  I was riding through the canyon, when someone going the other way said, “the trail is closed ahead”.  “Oh”, I said surprised.  I continued on about 10 more minutes when a man who works for the gas company stopped me and said the trail is closed ahead.  I said, “yeah, I heard but I want to see for myself.”

More riders rode past me telling me about the closure…”yeah, yeah” I said.  They were just being nice and trying to clue me in so I wouldn’t get there and be upset, but I just wanted to see it for myself.   I like to see things for myself and not just take everybody’s word for it.

That sounds like a smart philosophy, don’t you think?  If we all listened to everybody else telling us when to turn around and when to stop, we’d be living a life with no power at all and probably never even “go for” anything.

I rode the trail to the closure where the security guard said that would be the end of the ride.  I assured him that I knew all about it but I wanted to see it for myself.  He laughed and agreed that it made sense to him.

The funny thing is, I got a good 30 minutes more of a ride in after the first person told me about the closure.  Yes, I could have chosen to turn around and ride another trail nearby so that I could do a loop, but somehow I just wanted to get the full story for myself.  The security guard explained that the trail would be closed for about 2 more months.  Well, at least I know now, FOR MYSELF!  Instead of listening to the hearsay of everyone else, I got the firsthand story with my own ears.

That has been and will continue to be my way of life.  If someone tells me a movie sucks or a restaurant is awful, let me be the judge.  If a doctor tells someone with a serious injury, “don’t even bother trying to walk again”, do you think they should listen?

We are all different and we all get to choose.  Isn’t that the best news…we get to choose and we don’t have to take anyone’s word or opinion other than our own.

Today turned into a really gorgeous ride–even though it was cut short–there was something about it that was perfect.  I’ve never seen so many colorful moths and butterflys, it was a beautiful spring day and I got to decide for myself to see the end of the trail with my own eyes.

One more thing…you know the street signs that say “Not a Through Street”?  They aren’t always telling the truth.  You know how I know, I ride to the end and see for myself that there is a way through–they just don’t want you to know about it.  Sure, most of the time they tell the truth, but not always.  Ya just gotta go through it to get to it…and see for yourself!Not A Through Street



Today I rode my bike on the road. Most people are full of fear for me when I tell them I’m riding my bike… “be careful out there, watch your back” is the usual response.    That was the warning a friend gave to me yesterday so I chose to ride my mountain bike instead—not as many cars.mountains & me

Honestly, as much as I don’t want to admit it, those fears sometimes rub off on me.  Today, though, I missed Pacific Coast Highway.  I wanted to feel and smell the ocean air and see the coast in my face!  I rode from my house in Brentwood down Sunset Blvd to PCH and on into Malibu.  Tears fill my eyes as I write this, that’s how much I love this place!

As I rode through Pacific Palisades on my way back to Brentwood, I was on a stretch of Sunset Blvd that I had been on hundreds of times before.  I lived in this town for 15 years so I was quite comfortable on it.  Even though there were cars all around me–cars parked on the street, cars coming up behind me, cars turning into driveways, and cars coming out of driveways, I was one with the flow.

For just a brief flicker—not even a moment—I thought about all the cars and the possibility of danger.  What overtook me from that flicker of fear was the feeling…I AM THIS ROAD. I AM.

It’s hard to put into words, but all possibility of  fear was stripped from me.  I had such a confidence, a knowing, that I was safe because I WAS the road.  I was simply part of the flow of the Universal Law of Life in and around me.  I was safe and secure because I Am that.  I’ve heard it said before, when you master something you become it.  Fear will almost always rob us of our strength, I chose to trust and know that all is well and everything is working out for me.